Largely from being introduced to stoic philosophy, I have learned to group experiences or situations into two groups.
If an item is placed into the first group, I figure out what to do about it.
If an item is placed into the second group, I aim to dismiss it from my mind as quickly as possible. There’s no use giving mental space to an item that will happen however it happens, regardless of my actions.
These days, there are metrics on so many different parts of life to the point where it can be quite overwhelming. I have found this to be the case when it comes to statistics for anything that I release on the Internet. I can quickly see the number of views I get on a video, the number of people that open a newsletter, or the number of likes that I receive on a IG photo or a tweet.
If we go back to the exercise of choosing a group for these metrics, I believe that they are firmly within Group 2 (Note: I can control them indirectly by producing stuff that people find valuable, but the actual stats themselves, i.e. people choosing to view, open, or like, is not within my power).
Even though they are in Group 2, I have not been dismissing them quickly. On the contrary, they have been living in my head rent free for the last few weeks!
Knowing that to be the case, I started to ask myself one of my favorite questions:
This question always helps me to make slight adjustments to my mindset when I am stagnant and considering myself a victim of circumstance by bringing my focus to those things which I have the ability to change.
Knowing myself and the fact that structure helps me to find freedom, I decided to set up some rules for the next six months (August 4, 2021 - February 4, 2022) surrounding the way that I engage with the various statistics of how my work is perceived.
The idea is that these will take my focus away from the actions of others so that it can be placed on what is within my control - simply creating the best work that I possibly can.
Now, these are subject to get stricter moving forward if I feel as though I need more guard rails, but here they are for the time being:
In addition, I have too often found myself resting on my laurels after releasing some work that I made (which, let’s be honest, none of my stuff is even in the realm of “good” yet so I’m not quite sure why I do this 🤨), so I have tacked along these two extra rules to help keep the momentum moving forward (they were supposed to be 4 and 5, but I couldn't get the formatting right 😅):
Life is a big experiment so this is just another one I am trying out.
If you have any tips for how you keep focused on the work itself instead of feedback from the world, I’d love to get your thoughts! Feel free to email me at kumusta@mattagustin.com or reach out any other way that you know to reach me 😄
Hope you are positively thriving today, friends!
Love,
Matt